Help! She’s getting married next month!By Pansy One of my good friends from Bible College got engaged last month. And she’s getting married next month! On hearing this news, most of my female friends shake their head in disbelief and ask, “How on earth does she expect to get everything organised for the wedding?” I must admit that was the first thing on my mind when I heard her news. Having been through the ordeal of organising two weddings myself, (I only got married once, and I’m still married to the same person, but we had two weddings within three weeks because one of them was held overseas for the benefit of my overseas relatives), I started firing questions at my newly engaged friend: “How are you going to get the dress? Have you booked the reception? The photographer! Flowers! Makeup! Bridesmaid dresses …” And so I rattled off the list. Fortunately my friend is pretty relaxed about it all, and appears quite immune to the significant concerns expressed collectively by the female community around her. After all, a comment from my previous pastor is quite true, “A successful wedding is one where the bride and groom got married.” Not much else is strictly necessary, really. However, “wedding planning” does appear to have overtaken the significance of the event itself nowadays. Wedding magazines will tell you all about flawless cake icing and the latest trend in wedding gowns, but you will be hard pressed to find an article about how to build your marriage once you’re on the other side of the wedding. I found planning a wedding quite fun, and good planning is useful to ensure that the guests would somewhat enjoy themselves, but the effort put into the planning often doesn’t yield the expected results because, frankly, things will always go wrong on the day anyway! I can only wonder what would happen if the same amount of time people put into organising their weddings were put into preparing for their marriages? The Bible has a very high value of marriage. In the very first book of the Bible God talks about marriage, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:24) “Two become one” is a much more profound concept than any mere physical union. It describes such a deep bonding between two people, a bonding that is deeper than any other relationships in the world, even more than the parent and child relationship. It is a bonding that is inseparable by any means, a bonding made by God himself. In view of this, the main thing I need to be doing to help my friend who is getting married next month is not to be worrying about her wedding preparations, but praying for her and her fiancé, encouraging them to be preparing together for this most important life long union that is marriage. Your Comments:
The more you spend on the wedding, the more chance all attendees can get to heaven. Leon on 28/01/2008 |
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